15 Sep Be Careful of Stinkin’ Thinkin’
Turning Adversity Into Opportunity
By Motivational Speaker and Smile Expert Darryl Davis
The extraordinary Zig Ziglar once said, “We all need a daily check-up from the neck up to avoid stinkin’ thinkin’, which ultimately leads to hardening of the attitudes.” Of course, he was right on the money with that advice. Here’s my take” If the problem you’re currently facing seems like it was done to you, resist the temptation to play the victim. Problems are our opportunity to improve our lives. So, don’t look at what was DONE TO YOU, but rather look at what is being DONE FOR YOU. Your setback is a setup for a comeback.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “When one door closes, another opens,” right? The full quote is from Alexander Graham Bell, and I think it is very powerful: “When one door closes, another door opens; but we so often look so long and regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” So, what does this mean? I think it means that regardless of what happens to you, accept that it happened for a reason (which may at the time be difficult to understand) and look for a way to “turn lemons into lemonade.”
A friend of mine recently left a company that he had co-founded only a few years earlier. The business was starting to pick up steam, but he and his partner had some differences of opinion, and rather than lose the friendship entirely, he decided that it was best for him to move on. However, he didn’t have an actual exit strategy, so he literally left his position and walked headlong into nothingness. He had no income. No immediate prospects. And an angry wife. However, within just a few short months, and without really hitting the phones or knocking on tons of doors, he turned his career around. He teamed up with a few colleagues in similar fields and brought in business. Old clients called him from seemingly out of nowhere when they heard about his availability. And within a few months, he had earned more than he had done the entire previous year. How did this happen for my friend? I say (and he agrees) that it’s because he didn’t wallow in anger toward his former partner, focus on his regrets, or become depressed about his current situation. He refused to be a victim. Instead, he looked forward and committed to creating something better for himself and his family. And he accomplished just that.
When you wallow, or focus on the worry – you rob yourself of the ability (and the bandwidth) to find solutions and opportunity. Let the worry go. It’s not serving you. Instead, ask yourself the right questions. “If I could move forward, how would I?” Look for the good – believe it or not, it’s always there. Challenge your mind and spirit to help find the answers – and you will.
Want to learn more about finding the good in your life and keep stinking thinking at bay? Check out my book, How to Design a Life Worth Smiling About – it’s filled with the good stuff. Or invite me to your next event to share these life-affirming strategies with your team. I’d love to hear from you!