28 Jun Check Your Lens
Are You Seeing Things Through Positive or Negative Filters?
By Motivational Keynote Speaker and Smile Aficionado Darryl Davis
Part of designing a life worth SMILING ABOUT is surrounding yourself with nurturing and supportive people. If you hang around negative people who are always complaining about their circumstances, eventually that will become YOUR reality as well. This idea goes beyond just the people you associate with. Look at your external world. If you’re surrounded by positivity and support, your life looks totally different from the way it looks if you are surrounded by negativity.
Here’s a simplistic example of how your environment can influence you. I’ve been focused on applying the principles of this book in my personal life. One of the projects that I took on was losing weight and getting healthier. Well, one day my aunt bought my uncle a birthday cake—which sat prominently on the kitchen counter. That delectable cake kept calling my name. Every time I walked past that counter, right there staring me in the face was this wonderful, rich, sweet birthday cake. So, what do you think I did? Noooo, I didn’t eat it until it was all gone. But believe me, the temptation was there. So, to keep honoring my commitment (rather than falling into my longstanding habits), I asked my family if they could move the cake somewhere out of my line of sight. (Otherwise, I was going to eat it all up!) Ever been there done that?
Along these lines, let me share with you a brief parable related to how each person brings her own perspective to every aspect of life. As you read this, consider which driver you’d rather hang out with and which one will have a better quality of life. A man pulled into a gas station and asked the attendant, “What are the people like in the next town up ahead?” The attendant said, “What were the people like in the town you just came from?” “They were awful people,” the man responded. “Rude, cold, hostile, abrupt, and unfriendly. They wouldn’t give me the time of day.” “Well,” said the attendant, “I’m sorry to say it, but you’re going to find exactly the same sort of people in the town up ahead.” A bit later, another driver pulled in, coming from the same direction as the first. “What are the people like in the next town up ahead?” the second man asked. The attendant said, “What were the people like in the town you just came from?” “Wonderful people,” the second man responded. “Friendly, warm, helpful, patient, and kind. They went out of their way to help a stranger.” “Well,” said the attendant, “I’m happy to tell you that you’re going to find exactly the same kind of people in the next town up ahead.” So, the drivers had a different interpretation of the same exact thing—one saw the world through a negative lens, and the other had a positive mindset. Which type of person would you rather surround yourself with? Which type is most likely to support you in reaching your goals? It’s kind of obvious, right?
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